Challenges we face in our Menstrual Awareness Campaign in KidsForShe Clubs

Menstruation is one of the major challenges faced by most Uganda girls today. It

involves all categories of women especially girls both in rural and urban areas.

Currently in Uganda many girls experience difficulties such as inadequate income

to afford sanitary pads, less of self-esteem incase one’s clothes stains in public and

is observed which end up into mockeries, This has led to the highest causes of

school dropouts among young girls who in most cases become prostitutes in order

to acquire money from elder men “sugar dads”. Some parents have also ignored

their responsibilities towards girl child. This is so absurd since they become

victims of circumstances and others have ended up having them forced into child

marriages in exchange for wealthy.

However, I believe that these odds can be averted by supporting them through

education, providing sanitary pads, equipping them with different skills especially

girls at age of 15-17 in order to gain the basic necessities. If this is done many

would be saved and thus a bright future to the girls.

By Vivian Pimungu, 17

What I think is the Importance of Feminine Power to the Ugandan Women and Girls

Feminine power was given to the Uganda women in 1834 but gravely neglected

due to lack of political will backed by patriarchal stereotypes.

Feminine as per my understanding means women having behaviors which are

considered to be typical especially by being gentle, pretty and delicate. In present

Uganda , there is a being growing rate of feminine power that has been supported

by the Uganda government that came into power in 1986 and now KidsForShe

since 2018. One the most inspiring woman of Uganda is the wife of the current

president Janet Kataha Museveni the current female ministers in the Uganda

Parliament.

Gaining the Feminine power has gradually uplifted the status of girls and women

in Uganda today; for example many of the women have become teachers, nurses

and so on.

Slowly but steadily, our leadership of Girls on the KidsForShe clubs in the various

High Schools has also driven away the feelings of regarding girls as inferior to

boys because we have been able to do what different boys have failed to do

especially discussing about the importance of gender equality. And another

example is the current speaker in the parliament of the republic of Uganda Alitwala

Rebecca Kadaga who is highly valued in Uganda and in the region of Busoga,

Eastern Uganda.

In addition to the above, feminine has an inspiration role to the citizens of Uganda

boys, and men “the young and old” have been inspired to a positive change basing

on the achievements of some women in Uganda today. Different women are

owning and running different businesses successfully. But more importantly too,

we hope as the KidsForShe leaders to be Change Agents by promoting feminism

and gender equality across the Country.

By Tendo Babirye, 17

Chicas super poderosas Super-powerful Women

¿Qué significa ser una chica super poderosa?

Cuando me hicieron esta pregunta en un campamento de verano, me quedé sin palabras, no encontraba una respuesta que describiera todo y decirla en menos de 10 minutos.

Me llenó de entusiasmo saber que tenía la oportunidad de escribir una artículo para KidsForShe y estuve analizando bastante sobre cuál sería el tema que abordaría, quería que fuera algo especial y sobre todo que pudiera tener algo de mi esencia, así que decidí responder la gran interrogante y compartirla con ustedes.

Para empezar, viajemos al mundo de fantasía, donde una chica super poderosa sería ilustrada como alguien que vence el mal, quizá con poderes sobrenaturales y habilidades algo extrañas, siempre luciría como una heroína; regresemos a nuestra realidad, ¿Qué significa ser una chica super poderosa en la realidad del aquí y el ahora?

Creo que no debemos de alejarnos de la fantasía porque podemos ser esa clase de chicas, venciendo al mal con conocimientos, valores y buenas acciones hacia nuestra sociedad, podemos ser heroínas para muchas personas que necesiten ayuda o para las que necesiten una voz que pueda ser escuchada, por otro lado, nunca vemos la otra cara de la moneda, y es que el camino no será fácil.

¿a qué me refiero?

el camino no será fácil a menos que cambiemos a lo que el mundo esperaría que fuéramos, no necesitamos cambiar a lo quien se supone que debemos ser, lo que se necesita es cambiar al mundo para que pueda tener una mejor percepción de que existimos esta clase de chicas super poderosas con la visión de cambiar nuestro mundo.

Con esto puedo llegar a el punto reflexivo al que esperaba llegar: Sé una chica super poderosa con acciones simples pero de gran valor, ayuda a quien más lo necesite (un vecino, compañeros de clase, gente de tu vecindario,etc); siempre ilumina el día con una sonrisa, nunca se sabe quien puede necesitar una; busca alcanzar tus sueños de una manera extraordinaria y siempre apoyando a quienes van en el mismo camino que tú; comparte tus conocimientos con más personas para que su visión del mundo crezca cada vez más; pero sobre todo sé tu misma y define tu esencia.

Written by: Aztin Martinez Sierra

Written by: Aztin Martinez Sierra

What does it mean to be a super-powerful woman?

When I was asked this question at a summer camp, I was speechless. I could not find an answer that articulated all I wanted to say in only 10 minutes!

Knowing that I had the opportunity to write an article for KidsForShe filled me with enthusiasm and I thought a lot about what I would write about. I wanted it to be something special and something that held my personal essence. That’s why I decided to answer the colossal question I shared with you above.

First, let’s travel to a fantasy land where a super-powerful woman is someone who conquers evil, perhaps she even has supernatural powers and strange abilities. She is alway the hero. But if we return to reality, what does being a super-powerful woman actually look like?

I don’t think we should stray too far from the fantasy because we can be those kinds of girls. We can fight evil with our knowledge, values, and good deeds for our societies. We can be heroes to people who need help or to those who need a voice. We need to understand this new idea and act on it. Even though the path may not always be easy.

What do I mean by this?

Our path will not be easy unless we change the expectations the world has for us. We don’t need to change who we want to be, but what the world thinks we should be. There needs to be a better understanding that super-powerful girls like us already exist and that we want to change the world.

With that, I can reach the resolution I’ve bee working towards on this post: Be a super-powerful girl through simple yet valuable actions. Help those who need it (your neighbor, a classmate, people from your neighborhood, etc.). Always light up the day with your smile—you never know who might need one. Work hard to reach your goals and follow your dreams in an extraordinary way— always supporting those who are on the same path. Share what you know with more people so that your vision of the world can grow. But most importantly, be yourself and define your essence.

KidsForShe Blog!

Hi there!

The KidsForShe blog took a short break this sprig, but we’re back and better than ever. Stay posted every other Wednesday to read posts from our clubs in Uganda, Mexico, and the United States!

Now that summer is here, it’s time for you to frequent our blog, comment, and follow us on social media! Feel free to email us at kidsforshe@kidsforshe.org if YOU would like to be then next young advocate/writer/passionate person who is featured on this blog.

XOXO,

Team KidsForShe

How To Start a KidsForShe Club

With the school year coming to a close, maybe you should start thinking about activities to engage in next year. KidsForShe has got you covered! Want to know how to teach a class, run a club, or work with an organization? Follow these simple steps to be well in your way to having your own feminism club!

But first, a little information about us:

WE ARE A 501(C)(3) ORGANIZATION THAT WAS FOUNDED LAST YEAR. OUR MAIN OBJECTIVE IS TO ENABLE KIDS AROUND THE GLOBE TO START FEMINISM GROUPS WITHIN THEIR COMMUNITIES.

SO FAR, WE HAVE CHAPTERS IN NEW YORK, CALIFORNIA, MEXICO, AND UGANDA, AND ARE VERY MUCH LOOKING TO GROW OUR MEMBERSHIP.


OUR PRINCIPAL GOAL IS TO CREATE A NETWORK OF PASSIONATE CHILDREN WHO CAN EFFECT TANGIBLE CHANGE TOWARD GENDER EQUALITY, NO MATTER WHERE THEY LIVE.

Now, on how YOU can start a KidsForShe chapter:

1. Unite with a group of passionate members of your community who can commit to meeting once a week. Talk to your school administration to see if the school will host your club.

2. Arrange a meeting place and time

3. Register your club on our website by taking “our pledge” (just click on the tab that says "Our Pledge" and follow the directions

4. At each club meeting, use one of the Power Points from the “take action” tab on the KidsForShe website to discuss feminist issues or come up with your own topics and create Power points (share them with KidsForShe!)

5. Keep us posted! Email us at least once a month with pictures and summaries of what you clubs have been doing!

Hope this helps and happy club launching!

XOXO,

The KidsForShe Team

Five Ways to Celebrate Gloria Steinem's 85th Birthday

In case you don’t know who Gloria Steinem is, she is one of if not the most prominent feminists alive. She co-founded Ms. magazine in 1971, wrote acclaimed books like My Life On The Road, and Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions, was co-chair of the 2016 women’s march, and a lot more.

To celebrate this strong woman’s 85th birthday, which took place on March 25th, here is a list of things you can do:

  1. Read one of her books! She has written a lot of books about feminism, and to learn about her life, you might want to start with My Life On The Road.

  2. Watch her play! If you are in or near NYC, head to the Daryl Roth Theater to watch Gloria: A Life. Here is the link! You get to enjoy an account of Gloria’s experiences in the first talk, and then to talk with the audience in a talking circle during the second act. If you’re lucky, a guest speaker might moderate the talking circle!

  3. Follow her on Instagram! Not a lot of eighty-five year olds are tech-savvy enough to have an Instagram, Gloria is not one of them! Here is a link to her account!

  4. Buy a lipstick from The Lipstick Lobby, an organization Gloria worked with! Every color of lipstick helps support a different organization. To “Protest with your dollar and your lipstick,” as Gloria said, visit this page!

  5. Watch Gloria tell our founder why it is important that young people join the feminist movement here!

KidsForShe UGANDA Celebrates International Women's Day Planting Trees!

Friday March 8th was International Women’s Day, and KidsForShe UGANDA celebrated it in a very special way! They planted trees!

Advocacy and leadership are like trees. You have to plant them, and water them so they can fully flourish. The young people in Uganda are doing exactly that. They are sowing the seeds they need in order to be the best future leaders they can be, and with KidsForShe’s presentations and resources, they are nourishing the seeds so they will grow taller than the trees they planted last week.

Interview with Aristegui Noticias about KidsForShe

Our founder, Magdalena Del Valle was interviewed by renowned Mexican journalist, Carmen Aristegui. Here is a link to the interview with English subtitles and the translation of an article from Aristegui Noticias:

When she heard Emma Watson announce that gender equality did not exist during her speech to the United Nations in New York City, Magdalena Del Valle decided that she wanted to be a part of this initiative and she created KidsForShe, a project that wants to include young people in the conversation about feminism through clubs that have made it all the way to Uganda.


“I’ve gone to an all-girls school for most of my life, but I was frustrated that as a little girl, I was not allowed into “adult” conversations. I think it’s vital to include young people in important conversations because of their enthusiasm and creativity that can be lost in adults,” said the young Mexican girl all the way from New York City, where she lives now, in an interview for #AristeguiEnVivo (#AristeguiLive).

Through the website that she launched three years ago, Magdalena shares slide-shows that turn into guidelines for anyone to work towards gender equality from their schools or within their communities.


The slideshows have a step-by-step explanation of what gender equality is so that kids can learn about it. These presentations also have activities that allow the kids to reflect about inequality issues between men and women at work, or about laws that continue to be unjust in their own countries.


KidsForShe has made it all the way to Uganda, where some 6 thousand kids and 27 schools have joined the initiative


Apart from the club she started at her school, there is another club in California where together, they started a Pen Pal program. A project where students from the U.S. and Uganda share letters with one another.


“Through this, we can learn about what culture is like over there and what their culture is about gender. They can also learn about what gender equality means over here. This way, we broaden our horizons about gender traditions,” she explained.


KidsForShe also organizes events with communities. Recently, they had a movie showing with Cinepolis of “On ‘the basis of sex”, a biographical film about Ruth Bader Ginsburg, the American Supreme Court Justice, known for her strong work towards gender equality. .

Many tickets to this showing were donated to KidsForShe, and they were given to dreamers and organizations that help Mexican immigrants.  


“Many young girls from an organization in the Bronx called MASA, left and told me that they loved the movie,” she said.

Magdalena assured us that KidsForShe will formally be arriving in Mexico soon. For now, there is a club led by a girl from Sacred Heart in Mexico who discusses and reflects about gender equality with her friends and family members.


“I want to bring the Pen Pal program to México, and I’m working on it. I’m almost done translating the page into Spanish.”




Emily Dickinson and Valentine's Day

On the night before Valentine’s day, let’s commemorate our favorite recluse: Emily Dickinson! The renowned American poet from the nineteenth century never married and spent most of her life writing at home. Nevertheless, she produced beautiful poems about love:

"Love is anterior to life" Love is anterior to life, Posterior to death, Initial of creation, and The exponent of breath.

-Emily Dickinson

Emily Dickinson reminds us not only that women can be successful without leaving their house, but that love can be found anywhere. You don’t need a date on Valentine’s day to know love. Love is in yourself, in your work and in everyone around you. Don’t forget to spread it every day of the year and not just when you can buy heart-shaped boxes of chocolate.

Happy Valentine’s Day from KidsForShe!

To learn more about Emily Dickinson, click here!

#CaptainMarvelChallenge

Earlier this month, KidsForShe had a screening of On the Basis of Sex. We invited young girls from after-school centers like MASA in the Bronx and they gave us excellent feedback and left the theater thinking about their future careers. One of them wanted to be a psychologist, another an engineer. It was amazing to see young girls thinking about their opportunities after dedicating less than two hours of their Saturday to an educational and inspiring film about Ruth Bader Ginsburg.

Movies are an easy and fun way to get people to think. They get them to think about what they want to do with their lives, or about what they have done in the past that they may now see is wrong. Movies make us cry and laugh and gasp, but most importantly, they catalyze conversations.

Unfortunately, not everyone can afford the luxury of seeing a movie and having an enlightening conversation. This is why we have to support movements like the #CaptainMarvelChallene, an initiative that wants to get young girls to see the Captain Marvel movie when it comes out this International Women’s Day. The movie’s hero is played by Brie Larson and the film will probably instigate conversations about gender roles and how powerful women can be.

The #CaptainMarvelChallenge is a great way to help inspire young girls so if you want to donate to their cause, hare is the link to their GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/cause/captain-marvel-challenge.

If you want to learn more about the challenge, here is an article by CNN: https://www-m.cnn.com/2019/01/25/entertainment/captain-marvel-fundraising-for-girls-trnd/index.html

Summary of Our ON THE BASIS OF SEX Showing

The event was a success! Every seat was filled and after the movie, we held a reception where everyone got to enjoy some Mexican sandwiches and talk about the film. We sold KidsForShe pins and stickers and gave away free tote bags with Felicity Jones’s picture that the studio kindly provided for the event.

About 20 of the tickets were donated to Dreamers and young immigrants. People who wanted to go to the showing, but could not, were kind enough to donate the seats that would have been theirs to the children of immigrants so they could see a film about an inspirational woman. We distributed these tickets to the following four NGOs dedicated to helping immigrants: MASA, Qualitas, The US-Mexico Foundation and The US-Mexico Leaders of New York. The immigrant teens gave us fantastic feedback and they left thinking about their bright futures as psychologists, engineers, and lawyers.

Overall, the event was very moving, and I hope that it will give KidsForShe the momentum it needs to be a successful organization that helps young people become agents of change.


On The Basis of Sex Charity Showing

KidsForShe is partnering with Cinepolis, a movie theater company that is going to do a charity showing of “On The Basis of Sex”, a film about Ruth Bader Ginsburg, and give KidsForShe part of the proceeds. The movie tells Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s journey as she breaks glass ceilings at Harvard and in the courtroom. A lot of us know that she is one of only two female supreme court justices, but many don’t know that she ended legal sex-based discrimination before she was a judge. I won’t give too much away so that you’ll want to see the movie, but let’s just say Ruth Bader Ginsburg was “notorious” even before she sat in the supreme court.

The Cinepolis movie theater is located at the heart of Chelsea and is unlike any other theater in the city. It has lush seats that lean back at the press of a button and free refills on drinks and buttery popcorn. It is also only a few blocks away from the Milk bar, so if popcorn and soda is not your thing, you can always go get a compost cookie and a milkshake after the movie!

The Cinepolis + KidsForShe event will be January 12th at noon. What is more perfect to do on a cold January day than relax in comfy seats and watch an inspirational movie? If your answer to this question is: nothing (which it should be), come see “On The Basis Of Sex” on January 12th at  260 W 23rd St  and support one of CSH’s new clubs and our very own non profit organization!

You can purchase tickets here: https://cinepolisusa.com/locations/chelsea?Date=20190112


Chloe and Jane

When I first signed up for a pen pal from Uganda, I didn’t know what I was signing up for. What would I ask her? Would we have much in common? My pen pal’s name is Jane. I first got her letter and was happy she seemed so friendly and open, eager to know someone she was so far away from. I responded within a day of her response, hoping I could learn more about her. Letters were exchanged between us from October to November. I was happy we were able to communicate despite our busy schedules. We talked about everything from our families to our school schedules. We even discover we were both born in October. Sadly, our realities were different. She asked me how I celebrated my birthday and I told her with lots of friends and family. Jane told me that her mother had forgotten her birthday, but she said it okay because she knew her mom loved her, but was just busy with working to support her. After she said that, I felt so lucky and undoubtedly privileged to live in New York with a family who was allowed to put down work long enough to celebrate with me.

So, it has only been two months since I’ve known Jane, but I feel like I’ve been able to bond with her. I am still waiting for her letter, but I know she has so much more to deal with than I do. I am happy that I got this opportunity to know her. Even though we are so far from each other, it proves connecting with people doesn’t need to be as complicated as it seems.


The Notorious RBG

As the second ever female Supreme Court justice, Ruth Bader Ginsburg emerges as an unwavering advocate of gender equality and women’s rights. She was born in Brooklyn, NY, in the year 1933 and was appointed to the Supreme Court in 1993 under President Bill Clinton. She’s famously known as “Notorious RBG” due to her being dubbed “radically progressive” in comparison to her constituents, despite others calling her a moderate. She grew up in a loving family and was encouraged to pursue her education, a desire which she followed intently. Her biggest academic motivator and her inspiration to fight for gender equality— her mother— passed away the day before her high school graduation where she was granted the honor of being top of her class. After high school, she attended Cornell university and once again, graduated as valedictorian. After Cornell, she gave birth to her first child with her husband Martin Ginsburg, whom she met at Cornell. While her husband was in the military, she took a break from her education to support her child. Later, she attended Harvard Law School and was one female student of 8 amongst over 500 male students. During her time at Harvard, she faced gender discrimination daily, she had to care for her child, and her husband was diagnosed with cancer. Despite all this, she continued to uphold her academic standing and was successful in her endeavours. She then transferred to Columbia Law to study closer to her husband’s work, and graduated at the top of the class in 1959.

Throughout her job search, Bader Ginsburg was repeatedly denied judicial positions. Apparently, she was turned down specifically because one judge wished to continue swearing, as a law existed where men could not swear in a woman’s presence. She finally became a professor at Rutgers, where she became pregnant again and was advised to hide this, so she would not be fired. In addition, she discovered that her male counterparts were being paid much more than she was.

During her time directing the Women’s Rights Project of American Civil Liberties Union in the 70s, she aimed to tackle small cases in the eyes of the law to “make a dent” in already existing sexist policies. She won 6 cases, one in which she argued for the equality of widows and widowers, as widows held more benefits, displaying her regard for gender equality as a whole.

Finally, in 1993, she was appointed to the Supreme Court and has since fought for the rights of the marginalised, specialising in women’s rights. To list a few, Bader Ginsburg supported the legalisation of same sex marriage in 2015, did her part to destroy legislation that supports vague “noncitizens to be expelled” this year, and fights for women’s rights to choose how they manage their bodies. She has taken part in so many more historic cases dealing with the mentally ill, privacy rights, etc. and truly will be remembered for years to come.


KidsForShe Thanksgiving Reflection

This year, the KidsForShe team has a lot to be grateful for.

We give thanks to all the new members of the KidsForShe community inNew York and California.

We give thanks to our pen pals on Uganda for opening up a completely new side of the world to us.

We give thanks to other organizations that we have worked with and that we are working with at the moment. Your support motivates us to keep working and encouraging more and more young people to fight for equality and believe that they can do anything they set their minds to.

We give thanks to our donors who have helped us launch our pen pal program and run this organization successfully. Without you, we would not even be able to post this blog.

Thank you to everyone who is reading this and who supports KidsForShe.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Basic Bake Sales

I’m seventeen and for the first time in my life, I had a bake sale at my school. I had always seen bake sales as somewhat bureaucratic.I never knew who was in charge of allowing the bake sale and whether or not anyone had to oversee everything. How would I get the food? What kind of food did I need, and how much? How did I know what to charge for each item? It seemed impossible to have a bake sale and even more impossible to pick a charity it would benefit, but with the pen pal program fees looming over the KidsForShe checkbook, every penny I could get seemed worth while. I decided I would tackle the process of having a bake sale. Of course this wasn’t my first time selling some sort of nourishment to a mass of people, but I never considered the lemonade stand I had when I was nine in order to buy myself a Harry Potter wand worth commemorating. The bake sale I had this Monday at my school, is.

While I was handing out cupcakes and cookies to hungry middle schoolers, I realize how important it is for young people to have that experience. It is vital, that from a young age, we teach young people easy ways to raise and give money to charity. So here it is: BAKE SALES 101. All you need to do to host a successful bake sale.


Step 1. Know your customers. Has your school had a bake sale before? How successful has it been?If it hasn’t, would introducing bake sales successfully get you the money and awareness that you need?


Step 2. Set a date. Talk to your school administrators and ask for a specific time and day to have your bake sale.


Step 3. Find people to “man/woman” the bake sale. You can’t sit at the food stand all day, so coordinate a schedule that works with your friends


Step 4. Know what to bring.  Everyone is going to want to bring in chocolate chip cookies, but for a truly successful bake sale, diversity is key. Here are some yummy alternatives: brownies, cupcakes, rice crispy treats, candy, donuts, etc. If you and your friends each agree to bring something different, people are more likely to buy more things.


Step 5. Set a goal for yourself. If you know how much money you want to raise, then you can calculate how much each item should cost depending on how many of each treat you are going to have and how popular some treats are.


Step 6. Have that bake sale. Set up a station somewhere in your school, and sell some sweets! People Are going to LOVE you and your organization.


If you want to practice these mad bake sale hosting skills, but don’t know what charity you want to give your earnings to, start with KidsForShe! Any contribution counts.


Happy baking!


Developing KidsForShe Clubs in Uganda/Africa.

We the KidsForShe Uganda Clubs have established some basic guidelines of common ground. The Clubs

have a diversity of girls of different socioeconomic, spiritual, and emotional backgrounds. With the help

from KidsForShe-USA and Equality Heals Africa-Uganda we decided on some more "defined" guidelines

to help us develop trust, respectful language and behavior within the clubs.... here is a short list of the

most important attributes of the guidelines :

1) We are space holders to the Mystery of the Feminine, Her expressions, and activity. We honor each

other and our ancestors that have walked before us.

2) We hold sacred the intrinsic value of each woman and Girl in the Clubs. We support the learning and

expressions of our gifts and talents as they unfold within us on our Journey.

3) We hold sacred the space for Community among us. We adorn ourselves in friendship, trust and

collaboration. We value our connection both as individuals and as members of the Clubs.

4) We are "Witness" for each other. Every experience of our personal stories has value and contains

wisdom.

5) We engage in an environment of Safety and Gender Equality. We support and enforce confidentiality.

We do not share what transpires within the Clubs to others.

6) We actively open our hearts to be Present for each other. We offer support to one another for

creative exploration, expression and activity.

7) We support and practice Mindful Listening. We encourage each other’s individual voice spoken from

the depth of personal experience and journey.

8) We practice the art of Gratitude towards each other and treat each other with respect. Kindness

Matters.

9) We value the prime importance of the Pen Pal Program in promoting intercultural differences,

friendship and global citizenry.

Thanks to all members of the Pen Pal Program under the leadership of our beloved Magdalena Del Valle.

We welcome more members to join our Pen Pal Program as we projected to connect with 1000 girls in

the first year of operation 2018-2019.

Namaste,

Mariam Nabukeera

A Perception of Feminism From a 14 Year-old KidsForShe Member

Feminism by definition is “the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.” It is a word that symbolizes equality to the people who are treated as anything but equal. I as a white, educated, and wealthy person have been given everything in life to succeed. I am a person who has it easy and there’s no denying that, but the only part of my life that will ever challenge me, is my gender. Women and girls, no matter how privileged they are, will always face challenges that men and boys will never understand. We face the issue of sexual harassment and assault, the wage gap, women’s unemployment rate, and little things that happen every day that have been built into our society.

Society has made things that should be unacceptable an acceptable thing. I, as a feminist, even do things a good feminist shouldn’t. I listen to music that degrades women and makes them nothing but objects. When I see a nice house I immediately ask myself what that person’s father might do for a living. I want the perfect fairy-tale boyfriend just like in the movies. I love clothes. I do my hair, nails, and shave my legs to be “more like a girl.” That doesn’t mean I am not a feminist. We are told and shown that feminism results in things that reject typical fairy-tales, and that it tries to make the point that you don’t need to do your hair and nails every day to be “more like a girl.” Society has put an image of feminism in the world’s mind that we are non-shaving, man-hating beasts. This stereotype makes young girls not want to be feminists because they don’t want to be seen as this man-hating creature.

When I imagine girl thinking they will be perceived as that, it makes me upset. Girls can want to look pretty, or become a housewife, and want fairy-tales to come true! That doesn’t mean they don’t want to be treated equally. Feminism isn’t saying that we don’t want to do the things girls do, it says that we don’t want to be seen as only that. Girls can be whoever they want to be, all feminism is, is the chance to be whoever we want. It’s not being put on a pedestal because we want the same things as men and deserve more because they had it longer. It’s working, trying, and chasing what you believe in, just like any man. Yes, men have higher positions in almost every work field besides a receptionist, but just because men got ahead and are seen with more power, does not mean it should stay like that.

So, when people ask me if I hate men, or if i’m a lesbian because I simply say “I’m a proud feminist,” the only thing I notice is what society has done, and how women need to continue to be proud feminist and tell everyone they can what being a feminist really is.

I want to be an equal, and so should any girl. Men are not better than us, and we are not better than them, were simply equal. Boys and men, you should be feminist too, so when your daughter grows up, she’s treated just like you, and not like less. We strive to be equal, we are feminist.



By Jaden Towey